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This community has one main goal & purpose: TO GET YOU UNSTUCK!

Can you relate? - The major hinderance in my adult life has been my lackluster attempt to create meaningful change for myself (especially in the area of work & vocation).  I would get an exciting idea, I would learn about a neat opportunity, I would start some new job or venture but I would never, & I mean NEVER, stick with anything long enough to see it through.  I NEVER finished what I started.

Instead, I would get lost in overthinking & questioning this new avenue.  All of the excitement I initially would turn into doubt.  The doubt made me hesitate.  In the pause of hesitation my mind would cycle endlessly on fear-thoughts:

"What if this doesn't work?"
"This feels too uncomfortable."
"I don't know what I'm doing."
"I alway quit!"
"Why do I feel so scared?"
"Why did I spend so much money on this?"
"Everyone is going to know that I gave up again."
"I feel so stuck; I feel trapped."
"I hate that I do this to myself."

I never stuck with anything long enough to prove to myself that I could actually change.  I would always cower & give in to the fear of change.  As soon as I hit my first "bump in the road" or experienced any growing pains I would overreact & talk myself out of doing it.  I would retreat back to the "safety" & familiarity of my comfort zone which, for me, was serving in restaurants.

I kept myself in that cycle for 2 decades! 20 EFFING YEARS!!!
Because I gave into my fear so many times I began to believe that this was who I was & this was all I was capable of.

In other words, the cycle of starting, getting scared, & then quitting become part of my identity.

Like telling a someone over & over & over again that they're not good enough, not strong enough, not smart enough to be successful - over time that person believes it.  Call it brainwashing, propaganda, or nocebo effect, the result is the same.

I didn't believe I could change my career so my actions matched that belief. 
Also, I didn't take actions to change my career so my belief matched those actions.

Did I need to change my belief in order to take new actions?  Or did my actions need to change in order to rewrite my beliefs & create a new identify?

This seeming catch-22 was a common tripping point for me.  I felt like I always ended up back here & didn't know what to do.  It felt too uncomfortable & overwhelming so I would resign back to my usually-scheduled life of feeling lost & frustrated.

This led to many depressive bouts & mental health flare-ups. 

Logically, I knew that I had to do something different.  I knew I couldn't keep taking the same actions while expecting different results. I knew that I would feel better if I would finally get my shit together & quit restaurants for good. Logically I knew exactly what I had to do.  

But logic has nothing to do with one's identity.  People often make decisions based on emotions, not logic.  I'm not a dumb person.  I'm very aware of myself & aware of my flaws.  But all of my "knowledge" & "awareness" couldn't get me to make a new decision & commit to it.  I was just too damn scared & I had created too many grooves in my mind from following this habitual pattern of trying & quitting.

Why I  created this community - This community exists because it is the resource I wished I had when I spent all those years hating myself, cursing the world, & feeling utterly lost & alone.

The thing I needed most at that time was accountability.  I needed to adhere to an action plan.  I needed to ride out the waves of fear & hesitation.  I needed to stick with something long enough to finally  break the pattern of feeling stuck & trapped behind inaction.  I needed to create a new identity about what I was capable of doing in my life.  I needed to take the type of actions that would make me believe in myself.
This community serves that need.

The thing I needed second most was connection.  I needed to hear about other folks who were struggling in a similar fashion to me.  Not because I needed someone to do bad in order for me to feel good but, rather, I needed to be reminded that I'm not alone.  I needed to understand that I wasn't the only person who struggled or the only one who, "Couldn't figure it out."  Human beings are social creatures, we thrive when we work together.  We need connection & solidarity.
This community serves that need.

What's inside - The main feature of this community is what I call Productivity Power Hour.

Each week, I have a number of time slots set aside to be productive.  Members are able to join me, via video conference, to be productive together.

At the beginning of the hour each participant, including myself, must submit to the group chat what they plan to work on for the Productivity Power Hour.
This way everyone knows what to expect from you thus creating a strong layer of accountability.   

Everyone's microphones get muted while screens remain on (again, for accountability) & we get to work.

You will be pleasantly amazed by how much work you get done when you dedicate yourself to multiple time slots each week.

*WARNING* This sounds stupid simple, almost patronizingly so.  That's because the antidote to feeling stuck/avoiding your life is stupid simple - take meaningful, consistent action.
Please don't let your mind trick you into thinking that this is too simple to work.  If you have been spinning your wheels for months or years, living the same, played-out life, I promise you don't need a complicated solution.  You just need to show up for yourself consistently.

The secondary feature of this community is, well, a sense of community.  Once a week I host a live meeting in which I discuss the ups & downs of navigating growth, change, & transition.

I keep an open dialogue with the audience allowing members to ask questions, answer questions, & share their personal experiences.  *Note: no one is ever forced to speak or contribute.*

There is an unspoken "magic" that comes from group dynamics - the whole is greater than the sum of its parts.  There is something about vulnerability that is uniquely suited to foster connection with others.  And the solidarity & camaraderie that grows from that connection fills you with inspiration & motivation to stay the course & create change.  

Said more simply, as you hear about the struggles, fears, triumphs, & joys shared by myself & other members it will:
A) Make you realize that you're not alone
B) Make you feel a sense of connection
C) Encourage you to dig deep & not give in to old, habitual patterns.

So what's next? - If this feels good to you, if you resonate with my content, &/or if you are SO EFFING TIRED of feeling trapped in your own life then use the link below to get started.

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